The choice between the viewpoints of victim and responsible is consistently going to be a decision with which we are faced. Have you ever thought, "I honestly am the victim in this situation!" Being a victim, in this context, is the viewpoint that something is being done to you. Being responsible is not about whether or not you were victimized, but your outlook on the situation. It is about creating the liberty for you to move forward in your life however you see fit. Two people that have been put in the exact same situation can choose either victim or responsible. It is not about the circumstances; it is always about your response to your circumstances. Coming from a victim mentality will create an experience for you that you are not in control, or that you were exploited. A responsible viewpoint will change your experience to power because you had a choice in life. Responsible empowers you and puts you back in the driver's seat of your own life. How do you transfer your experience from victim to responsible? Go through a list of all of the choices you made to put you in the circumstances you are currently in. Notice how you feel differently about the circumstances after looking at it from this vantage point. Not all of your feelings are necessarily going to be good. Neither the victim mentality, nor the responsible mentality is true AND both of these viewpoints have prices and benefits. This is simply an opportunity to choose the viewpoint that is going to release you to get to where you say you want to be, or get what you say you want.